THEY STATE THAT EXPERIENCE BRINGS PERSPECTIVE. IN THE CASE OF A WEDDING, THAT IS SURELY TRUE. THE FOLLOWING ARE 10 PIECES OF WISDOM THAT BRIDES WISH THEY KNEW BEFORE THE BIG DAY TO HELP CALIFORNIA BRIDES PLAN THEIR WEDDING EVENT.
Don’t Fret Over Fine Details.
“Little details are totally unimportant after the fact,” says Charlotte Milling from Olympia, Washington. “Curling ribbon, wrapping tulle, and folding napkins will never be as fulfilling as spending an hour decompressing. You will show more on how you looked on your wedding day than on how closely your final product resemble your mental image, so don’t shortchange your body.” Another realization Charlotte became that she was calling the shots! “I found if I would like to do something, people would gratify me because I was the bride. So when I decided I wanted to go for a run between the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner, both of our families and bridal party did our own Rehearsal Day 5K. My maid of honor even trained for it! It gave us all a moment to step back from the chaos, take part in something fun, and bond in a way that wouldn’t have been possible at the wedding alone. It is one of my fondest memories from the entire weekend!”.
Sweat to Stress Less.
Catherine Charon from Richmond, Virginia also used exercise to channel her nerves. “I trained for my first half-marathon in the month’s preceding my wedding. Whenever I got bothered with details or conflicts I went out for a run. It was a fantastic way to clear my head and by the time I returned, I felt like I could handle anything. And also, I was in the best shape of my life when I walked down the aisle 20 days after the race (and I finished in 2:01!).”
Let People Assist You.
“I am a major control freak and didn’t want anyone to help– I was afraid if I gave up power it wouldn’t be my wedding anymore,” confesses Karinda Hersman from Stevensville, Montana. They weren’t trying to takeover; they just wanted to enjoy the process with me. At the end of the day, you will be married to the love of your life, and isn’t that the ultimate goal?”
Designate a Fireman.
“I had decided early on that I would not get stressed about my wedding,” says Corri Lewellen from Jefferson City, Missouri. “I made it until two days before when the bakery called to say they couldn’t make the cake I had ordered and paid for. The morning of my wedding, the bakery called my cell phone to tell me they wouldn’t be able to deliver the cake to the reception site.
“Recalling, I wish I had designated someone to handle those calls and put out those fires. If you don’t have a wedding coordinator, assign your mom, maid of honor, or someone else who can calmly and firmly handle last minute flare-ups.”
Be True to Yourself.
“Do your own makeup, wear a dress you are comfortable in, and practice dancing in your wedding shoes. If they don’t feel right, get another pair.
Know When to Save.
To avoid money woes, create a listing of things you want to bargain on and what you want to spend lavishly on before you start planning. “I was really stressed about sticking to a budget for my wedding,” says Michelle Petrillo of Florham Park, New Jersey. “I saved lot money by ordering my flowers from my local supermarket rather than a florist. No one could believe my gorgeous centerpieces came from Shop Rite!”
Try It On Before Go Time.
“I picked up my wedding dress and hung it up in the hotel room two days before the wedding. We called the dress shop and they recognized their mistake. Lesson learned– make sure it is your dress when you pick it up!”
Exercise Cravings Away.
“I completed wedding planning by spending 45 minutes on the elliptical each time I needed to make a challenging decision,” says Mary Jo Howell of Fort Worth, Texas. “This kept me from stress eating and got me in shape for my wedding day.”
Worry About Yourself.
“I was extremely stressed by the idea that our guests wouldn’t take pleasure in our wedding,” says Claudia Anel of Jersey City, New Jersey. “I went crazy about details all day long for weeks leading up to the big day, I was so miserable. The day of, I realized that every person at our wedding was there to be happy for us. We had 105-degree temperature and an outdoor ceremony, but every one of our guests beamed with enjoyment for us anyway. My advice to any bride-to-be is to trust that the important people in your life want the best for you. Knowing that will alleviate of everything.”
Remember to Remember.
“Three words,” says Joyce Hanz of Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. “It’s your memory.” My hubby and I removed our traditional wedding and eloped at a place we really like. We were married at the historic Banff Spring Hotel in the Canadian Rockies. It was just us and absolutely perfect, as well as stress free! We remained for a week honeymooning and have only magical memories of our day.”